Let's get with it people!!!

The wonderful world of facebook has given us a new way to make our voices heard.  We know when people are happy, sad, angry, drunk, and even what the size of their latest shit was.  Freedom of speech.  It is a wonderful thing.  Not all countries have that right, so I ask you when should you just keep it to yourself?

As some of you know I am a talker.  I REALLY like to talk.  I love to write and express myself.  I get very personal.  I also feel if you don't like what I am saying don't listen or don't read it.  You don't have to agree with me.  You may think I am smart, funny, witty, obnoxious, boring, stupid.  Whatever you feel you are entitled.

Some of you  also know that I have a child with special needs.  If you have read this blog it is quite clear.  I have always been sensitive when it comes to ignorance, but having my son has multiplied my heartbreak when I hear hate roll of someones tongue. 

Now back to facebook. Now I have nothing against facebook, but I have been appalled by some of the status updates I've read.  Again, it is my choice not to look, but ... COME ON PEOPLE!!!!!  What has fueled this is a comment I read tonight about gay people not having the right to marry.  I had to say something.  I simply said.  Gay people do not choose to be gay they are born that way.  Everybody deserves to be able to be married and everybody is entitled to equality.  Now I had one response agreeing with me, but the comments that came after had me shaking my head in confusion an sickness.  The comments were essentially all the same and said I have many gay friends I don't care how they live.  It is not for me to judge.  However it is immoral and they shouldn't be allowed to marry.  Now, FRIENDS????  Really, you call yourself a friend????  I too have a few gay friends and my wish for for my friends is that they are happy ,and find love (because not all of us choose wisely).  My wish is when my friends choose to start a life with their soul mate they can get a marriage license in any state, any country, and they can plan their marriage, elopement, or trip to the court house, and actually be allowed to be legally married.They can have children by which ever means they desire and are not ridiculed.  Don't call yourself a friend when you spew venom.

That was just my topic for tonight.  The things I read from so many of you.  I know nobody likes the PC world we live in, but when you could be hurting someone why say it?  All you do is hurt and spread hatred.  I have seen many of my friends and relatives allow people to post the word "retard" on their pages or use it themselves. Come on people say something.  Hey dude easy on the "R" word. It doesn't have to be some big thing, but make people think.  I heard Whoopie Goldberg talking about it.  She said I say it I know it is wrong. It's not like saying the "N" word.  Really???  Because Whoopie the "N" word effects you the "R" word doesn't .  Hate is hate.  Ignorance is all the same. When I hear that word it breaks my heart.  When I hear the "N" word it breaks my heart. I have seen my son look at people with tears in his eyes and shake his head no.  It hurts.  I heard one boy say it is the worst word because people with disabilities are unable to defend themselves.  That is so true.  They can't defend themselves.

To close.  I want you to think before you speak.  If what you have to say will hurt an entire group of people  (race, religion,disabilities,sexuality,etc) then shut your mouth, because you look like an idiot.

Make a Wish



Wish Ornament

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Don't forget free shipping ends tonight.   Avon has endless possibilities for gifts.  In honor of the wish ornament I will make one wish out into cyberspace tonight.

I wish to be a stronger person.  To always speak up for myself, my son, and for what is right.

Now what is your wish?

Create New Memories



Imagine the pictures on Christmas morning.



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Avon has so much more than makeup.  Don't forget the free shipping.  Good through tomorrow.

Each day this week I will give you another example of Avon products that you might not have expected.  Avon is currently celebrating their 125th year of wonderful business. 

I was a little leery about selling Avon.  I remembered Avon from when I was a child.  What a didn't realize is that Avon conforms with the times.  I needed to support my son and I didn't think I could make any money.  I was wrong.  I was surprised with how many people were excited that I was selling.  I had never actually tried Avon, that is until I started selling it.  I love it.   I knew I had to try it because I wouldn't feel comfortable selling anything that I wasn't willing to use.  I have clothes, make up, jewelry, sneakers, perfume, and even kitchen gadgets.  Check out my website.  I am sure you will find a great present for someone or yourself.  Happy shopping and thank you.

Don't Forget Your Stocking Stuffers

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Don't forget about Avon. I always love when I get beauty products.  When I was young my Mom always got me perfume, make up, a new outfit and bubble bath for Christmas  After we opened our gifts and had our tea. I would take a bubble bath, and put on my new outfit and make up on.  I would then fix my hair and a spritz of my new perfume.  I aways felt so good about myself and so pretty when we went to visit family.  I know it sounds cheesy, but the little things really do count,  Make someone feel special.  If you click on the link above you will receive free shipping with the promo code. (don't forget to enter the code when you check out.)  There are some great deals right now.  Happy shopping and thank you!!!

Happy Thanksgiving

Do not get tired of doing what is good. Don't get discouraged and give up, For we will reap a harvest of blessing at the appropriate time.
- Galatians 6:9

What are you thankful for today? 

I am thankful for my beautiful son Joshua.  He has been the most wonderful blessing.  I can't imagine who I would be without him.  I can't remember who I was before him. I am thankful for my family.  They have helped me through some very difficult times. I am thankful for my friends.  They have been there to cry with and most importantly to laugh with.  I am also thankful for my 1p36 family.  They are truly the only ones who understand what it means to be Josh's mommy.  They are always there to answer questions, be supportive, and have been inspirational.

No matter how hard life can sometimes be if we look close enough we will always be able to find something to be thankful for.

What are some of your Thanksgiving memories?

I am not sure why these are the first memories that pop in my mind.  I remember my grandmother and I would eat the skin off of the turkey before it even hit the table.  I remember being the only other person (besides my grandpa) that would eat the oyster stuffing.  It made me feel like grandpa's girl. 

When I was in high school I remember I always had at least 3 places that I had to go to for dinner.  I would eat a tiny bit at each house so I wouldn't offend anyone.  Then we would always go for a long walk after the last dinner.  I remember being with my family.  All with their different traditions.  I got to take my favorite traditions from each and combine them into the traditions I am creating for my son.

Have a Happy Thanksgiving.  Spend some time today to reflect on what you are thankful for.  Have a great day with your friends and family.

Daylight Savings Time

Don't forget to turn you clocks back tonight.  Hopefully some of you will get an extra hour of sleep.

Tuesday's Question ...... I dare you to respond!

Are you a leader, a follower, or an observer?

I would have to say I am a little bit of all three.  I think we have to be to truly learn.  However, I think most of my life I have been an observer.

I have never been completely comfortable in my own skin.  I have always been searching for other peoples acceptance.  I never wanted to disappoint anyone, so I adopted the idea if I don't try I can't fail.  If I tried and I wasn't sure of the outcome I would quit.  My fear of what other people thought of me controlled me for years.  At 35 I am trying to break that cycle for myself.  That is one of the reasons I have started this blog.  I want to find myself, my true self.  I am also hoping that while on this journey I can help others find themselves, also.

I've always been outspoken. I can defend myself.  I would never follow someone when I didn't agree with what they were doing. My problem was I was scared to ask questions.  I didn't want to offend someone or look stupid.  I think  many people that know me would say that I am a leader.  What they didn't see was my embarrassment.  They didn't see how inadequate I felt.  They didn't know that I would laugh at their innocent jokes(about me), but would cry inside because that is how I really felt about myself, and by them making jokes in my mind it confirmed that they felt that way about me too.  I think it is because I am outspoken that some feel that I am a leader.  I have many ideas, but no follow through.  If I fail I will prove that I really don't have anything together. Since having my son I have had parents come to me and tell me what an inspiration I am to them.  I always have a smile on my face.  They tell me they wish they were so positive.  These comments make me laugh, because I feel completely lost. I feel like I fail as a parent everyday. Not in the way you might be thinking.  My son is well taken care of and very much loved.  I feel like I don't do enough for him.  I feel like I don't know the system well enough to get more services, a better education, and so on. Now, I don't want to make this a pity me post. I recognize that you have to point out your problem areas to be able to overcome them.  And for me and my son I will overcome them.

Now back to the main question.  Are you a leader, a follower, or an observer?

I don't believe one of these positions is better than the others.  I feel that you have to be content with yourself.  It is only when you are not happy with yourself that you need to make a change.  Be proud of which ever posistion you are and own it.  Now can you be so honest?